20 Dating Tips for Women
The following 21 dating tips for women are based on research,
informal interviews, and personal experience. Most of them are exclusive to
women and not applicable for use by men, although they may benefit by reading
them. The same is true of theones
for men; women may benefit by reading them as well.
1. Games will never get you what you truly want. If
you want a quality relationship, be a quality partner by being honest, sincere,
and genuine. These women and men always end up with the best relationships.
Those who have bought into Hollywood’s formula for getting what you want
through tricks and schemes usually end up like the “actors” themselves:
divorced and broken hearted.
2. Accept nothing less than advanced plans and full attentiveness. If
he is not giving you enough advanced notice when he asks you for a date, or he
has no plans when he picks you up, or he’s not attentive during your dates,
move on! If he’s doing any of these things he has little interested in you.
Don’t waste your time! You deserve more. If you don’t feel you deserve more
than you should not be dating until you’ve taken the necessary
actions to feel worthy.
3. Two week acid test. If you haven’t heard
from him within two (2) weeks after your last date, move on! Don’t allow
yourself to take it personally, even if you had a great time! Don’t waste your
time trying to figure it out. Just get yourself back out there!
4. Proportional courtesy. Order food, drinks,
and anything else in an amount equal to what he orders. Men really appreciate
this. Many men believe that a woman’s behavior in these situations is a
reflection of her character.
5. Demonstrate appreciation. Eat, drink, use, and
wear what he buys for you. Men really appreciate this as well. Shopping for
women’s things is very difficult for most men. When you soothe their shaky
confidence in this area by using or wearing something they bought for you it’s
truly a delightful event for most men.
6. All money matters. Show your
appreciation for the money he spends on you regardless of the amount. You never
know what his financial situation might be. You’ll have a better time and
you’ll be viewed in a more positive light if you have no expectations about how
much a man SHOULD spend on you.
7. Giving merry-go-round. Reciprocate for
things that the man has purchased for you by doing something special for him
periodically. Even a dinner at home or a small gift “of interest to him” would
be appreciated.
8. Ex talk contaminates dates. Do not talk about an
ex boy friend, ex husband, or any former love interest of any kind ever! There
may be an appropriate time in the future for such a conversation, but it serves
no useful purpose during the early stages of dating.
9. Save your life story for your autobiography. Don’t
tell him your whole life story right away. Prolong the mystery. In fact, always
try to maintain some degree of anonymity in some area of your personality or
life, as it naturally provokes more excitement. Mystery is a mental
aphrodisiac!
10. Being yourself is your best act. Don’t
try to impress your date with the people you know, places you’ve been, or your
body measurements. Using these things to win man over will only attract those
with superficial intentions. Win them over by showing them the qualities you
have inside by simply being
yourself.
11. Keep your eyes pretty. Do not check out
other men. Even when done on the sly many men will pick it up. Loyalty is one
of the most important qualities that men look for in a woman. If he sees you
looking at other men, he will start to question your ability to be loyal.
12. Comments don’t justify. Do not comment on the
good looks of another man OR woman regardless whether it is in-person, on a
screen, or in a magazine. These comments don’t explain your gawking to a man.
They just further complicate the issue of loyalty.
13. Trust your intuition. Do not continue to
date a man if you know he’s not right for you. Don’t keep him around until you
find someone better. That’s not fair to him or you. Don’t waste your time. Do
what’s right. Have the courage to move on!
14. Always look your best. Try to look your best
and wear what is appropriate regardless of the occasion or activity. Don’t get
lazy, ever!
15. Keep his head turning to look at you! Find
out what he likes you to wear. To learn about everything he likes, you’ll need
to ask him for specific details. Men have strong visual needs. There is no
getting around this fact. This doesn’t mean short skirts and a lot of
makeup for all men. For example, some men love to see a woman in nice fitting
jeans and a minimal amount of makeup.
16. Show it if you feel it. Show your excitement
to see him when he comes to pick you up if you sincerely feel that way. This
will establish a heartwarming tradition that he’ll love.
17. The ultimate dating tip! Do not have sex with
him on the first date. In fact, don’t have sex with him until YOU are ready.
During the heat of the moment, men will say things to get sex that they believe
are true then, but later when their head clears they often feel completely
different.
The most important secret that a woman needs to know is that when
you have sex with a man on the first date it establishes doubt in a man’s mind
about your ability to be faithful. It also does nothing to establish any
respect. If you resist him, he will respect you for it. The more you resist him
the more he will respect you. If he is truly interested in you he will want you
more and he will wait patiently until you are ready. If
he doesn’t wait he was not very interested in you, therefore he’s not
worth your time.
If you want to have the BEST lovemaking experience of your life,
become best friends FIRST and then make love. I assure you, it is worth the
wait!
18. Haste makes waste. Do not rush any
aspect of the relationship building process. Resist the temptation to create
instant closeness. No one likes to be pressured to feel a certain way. Allow
the relationship to build naturally. If you rush it, you’ll get unnatural
results. If you’re patient, it can become what you want.
19. Men are like lions. They don’t get too
excited or aroused unless they have to chase after a lioness a bit. If the
lioness is too tricky or runs too fast, however, the lion will just give up.
20. Trickery is a deception of self. Do
not resort to any tricks or manipulation to get a man to commit to you.
Pretending that another man is interested in you, faking a pregnancy, or
actually getting yourself pregnant always leads to disaster. A relationship
built on deception can never flourish.
Follow these tips and you’ll get what you want.
