20 Dating Tips for Men
The following 21 dating tips for men are based on research and
personal experience. Most of them are exclusive to men and not applicable for
use by women, although they may benefit by reading them. The same is true of
the ones for women; men may benefit by
reading them as well.
1. Ask her for a date like a man. Pick
the day before you call. If she tells you that it’s not a good day, do not
negotiate unless she offers a specific alternative that fits into YOUR plan. If
she doesn’t offer a specific alternative (This would NOT include,
“Call me next week.”), say to her, “Perhaps some other time.” That’s it! If she
is interested, she will re-arrange her schedule. Think it over for a week or
more and if you feel in your gut that you should give it second try, go for it.
If not, move on!
2. Make dates in advance. Ask her to go out
with you well in advance of the actual date. 1-2 weeks is good at the
beginning. This strategy gives you time to make arrangements for your date and
it also creates romantic anticipation.
3. Have it all planned. Have the entire date
planned, scheduled, and reserved before you pick her up. Not only will she be
impressed by your organization, but you’ll also have a better time.
4. Invest your time and money wisely. There
is no sense investing a lot of your time or money until you decide if you like
each other. Most women will only become uncomfortable, or perceive you as being
foolish, if you spend a month’s pay on the first date.
5. Use a progressive dating strategy. Start
with inexpensive dates during the week and work your way up to more expensive
dates on the weekends.
6. Timeliness is classiness. Be on time to pick up
your date. This does NOT mean getting there early. Many women, and men,
schedule their preparations for going out down to the last minute. If you are
running late by more than 10 minutes, call and let her know when to expect you.
7. Being yourself is your best act. Don’t
try to impress your date with your money, your position, your car, or your body
measurements. Using these things to win a woman over will only attract those
with superficial intentions. Win them over by showing them the qualities you
have inside by simply being
yourself.
8. Be like a movie star. Almost all the male
movie stars who attract a lot of women on and off the screen have exquisite
manners. Women love being treated like ladies. You see these men opening a door
for her, letting her walk into a room first, and helping her with a chair. I
once saw two (2) young army combat veterans instantly stand up when a poor,
unattractive teenage girl entered the room. They had no obligation or incentive
whatsoever to respond as they did. It was beautiful!
9. Keep your eyes on the ball. Do not check out
other women. Even when done on the sly, women will pick it up. Nothing is more
classy and warrior-like than a man who keeps his attention on the woman he’s
with regardless of who she is.
10. Cleanliness is coolness personified. Be
sure that all areas of your body are clean and fresh. This includes your hair,
ears, body, and especially your teeth. Bad breath, which is often caused by a
dental or periodontal problem, is usually not noticeable by the person who has
it. Nothing is more of a turn off than bad breath. If you haven’t had your
teeth cleaned in the last six months, get it done!
11. Hold your flattery. Save your compliments
about her beauty for the right time. Although you might be intoxicated by her
beauty, do not reveal the full extent of your feelings on your first few dates.
Save that for the right moment several dates down the road. Just say, ”You look
very nice this evening.” and leave it at that. In regard to sexual innuendoes,
they have no place during the early stages of dating.
12. Put it in your autobiography. Don’t
tell her your whole life story and all your secrets right away. In fact, always
try to maintain some degree of anonymity in some area of your personality or
life, as it naturally provokes more excitement. Mystery is a mental
aphrodisiac!
13. One night to stand. Do not expect to have
sex on your first date. Consider these scenarios: If you do have long-term
interest in a particular woman and your main focus is sex on the first date,
her opinion of you will be lowered. If you do NOT have any long-term interest
in a particular woman and she willingly has sex with you on the first date, she
has probably done it before! Maybe several times, maybe hundreds of times!
Having sex with a woman like this GREATLY increases the chances of you
contracting a sexually transmitted disease (STD). Here’s my advice: Take the
pressure off yourself and don’t expect sex on the first date. This will enable
you to more clearly evaluate the person and you’ll have a better time.
14. Sex without full mutual agreement is rape. Do not
pressure a woman to have sex. Regardless of how you feel about a particular
woman, it is inappropriate to pressure a woman to have sex at anytime.
15. Patience equals unimaginable pleasure. Do
not rush a woman to have sex. If you’re really interested in a long-term
relationship with a particular woman, do NOT rush her to have sex with you
based on any kind of “timetable.” If you want to have the BEST sexual
experience of your life, become best friends FIRST and then have sex. I assure
you, it is worth the wait!
16. Romance is the key to receiving a woman’s best. Women love
romance! They need it to feel complete. It literally fulfills a part of their
sexual needs. It’s what they require for true satisfaction. So, include romance
into your dating plans.
17. Be a creative romantic. The traditional
methods for creating romance remain unchanged. These include buying her
flowers, candy, jewelry, perfume, and romantic music; sending her love letters
and notes; taking her to dinner at unique restaurants; taking her dancing at
nightclubs; and taking her to movies, operas, or plays that depict a love
story. The key to having the outcome that you want, however, is to come up with
your own unique twists to these ancient practices. In other words, be CREATIVE!
18. Keep your grip. Do not get lazy about
your relationship or you might get a letter from her one day that says,
“Goodbye.” Keep yourself looking your best. Keep the relationship alive by
continually telling her and showing her how much you care. And don’t ever
forget to do something for her birthday and any other holidays that are
important to her.
19. Warrior’s goodnight kiss. Don’t linger after
the goodnight kiss at the beginning of your dating activity with a particular
person. Kiss her once to the duration that feels right. Then say good night,
turn, and walk away. Do not linger, talk more, try to kiss her again, or ask
her for another date! This practice creates the mystery/romance that women love
and prevents you from getting catch up by the heat of the moment and acting
like a fool. Take a deep breath and go home. Take a few days to think things
over. Is she right for you? Do you want to see her again or move on? It’s a lot
easier to move on at the beginning than down the road.
20. Trust your gut. Do not continue to
date a woman if you know she’s not right for you. Don’t keep her around until
you find someone better. That’s not fair to her or you. Don’t waste your time.
Do what’s right. Have the courage to move on!
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Follow these tips and you’ll get what you want.
